Purging is good. Physical purge helps mental purge.
Reclamation of your space is great!
Steps are steps, regardless their size. Significance is still significant.
I have determined there is a definite unwelcome side effect of my zoloft. I have discontinued taking it. I feel like I am ready to be more proactive in my life. The zoloft wasn’t helping me make things better. It seems it was actually just muting my brain in many ways, and helping me ignore the fact that I need to take action to improve my and my kids’ environment.
Changes are coming. I am both excited and tad bit scared. However, I am looking forward to one big change. It comes at not the most opportune time, though. There is an event now closer than the horizon which will complicate matters immensely. I will navigate this with care and honesty. But what else does one have before something happens, except one’s word? One’s reassurance? One’s confidence isn’t always easily accepted, and can be frankly doubted. Actions are the truth, however you can’t have those actions of proof until the event horizon.
5 years ago I finally was able to get myself and my two children out of an emotionally abusive relationship. It wasn’t easy, and definitely took a toll on all of us. However, the kids and I WERE able to move on, and although life isn’t perfect (is it ever?), it’s decidedly BETTER.
Today, I find myself in a non-abusive relationship with a really great man. He takes care of me and my children and is wonderful in so many ways. Yet he can’t seem to understand why I am often sad and moody, sometimes depressed, and why I am constantly asking for him to validate me, our relationship, and his love for me. I sometimes feel so overwhelmed that I can’t even explain to him how I am feeling or why.
This post is important for anyone involved with someone who got out of an abusive relationship. Hang in there. We can’t understand how their lives have been changed. Remain their rock, regardless her or his doubt. Just remember you like that person behind that doubt. You saw something in her or him. Someone else spent a long time convincing this great person that she or he didn’t deserve anyone else, and should be grateful for the horrible treatment instead of being alone.
Do you like her or him? Say it. Is she or he attractive today? Say it. Do you smile at some point during the day because you think about this person? Tell it from the mountain tops!